When I was a child I worried about small details such as getting home when the street lights came on. I spent summers playing outside and running through sprinklers. I played football in the street with the neighborhood kids and have the scars on my knees to prove it. My sister and I rode our bikes all over small town America, without a care in the world. The worst thing we could imagine happening to us, was being chased by a mean neighborhood dog and getting bit on the bottom (true story).
As an adult what I worry about changes on a daily basis. My biggest fear is that with each passing day I see the innocence of my children slowly being destroyed. As parents, Mr. G. and I are a united front when it comes to the well being of our children. Sure we don't always agree, but in the end we do come together to do what is best for them.
Kids today have more luxuries than they need; smart phones, tablets, a dozen gaming systems, and many other creative thinking hindrances. With these devices comes the accessibility of knowledge and exposure to things that young minds may not be ready for. This free accessibility to knowledge comes with a price and can destroy their innocence if we don't pay attention. I learned that lesson first hand one day when my eldest red asked me why those bad men flew planes into the Twin Towers on September 11th. This conversation stemmed from him browsing around on a "to remain nameless" site and somehow coming across videos of the planes crashing into the towers. That's when I really felt the innocence of my young children being destroyed and I was letting it happen. I felt like I no longer had control of the information he needed to know, while holding back the gory details. I knew I needed to somehow regain that parental right to try and protect his young developing mind. Some may say controlling too much of their lives will hinder their creative thinking and views. Besides what we don't tell them, they will just learn at school from their friends. They are 8 and 9 years old. They barely started picking out what to wear to school and still like to be tucked in at night. I highly think they are old enough to be online selecting what videos to watch.
I guess my point of this ramble is that I want my children to be free thinkers, grow and learn in a world that is nothing I would of ever imagined it would be when I was 8 and 9. However, I think as a parent it is my responsibility to make sure they are spending these precious years being a kid and only having to worry about making sure they are home when the street lights come on. For now, I want to carry the burdens of the world on my shoulders for them because one day I will wake up and they will be grown adults trying to protect the innocence of their own children.
xoxo
~Me
Monday, February 24, 2014
Slowly Destroying Their Innocence
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Monday, February 17, 2014
Finding the Good
Abraham Lincoln once said, "We can complain that rose bushes have thorns or we can rejoice that thorn bushes have roses". I probably wouldn't think twice about that quote, but recently I read something similar that had a greater impact on my thinking. "Every day may not be a good, but there is something good in every day".
There's a lot of truth behind those words. We tend to focus on the bad of any given situation, rather than see the good. The good might make us seem to compansionate or thankful. The good might give people the impression that we are "perfect" and live without fault. The reality is we are drawn to the bad and need to be reminded of how to find the good in each day.
For me, I learn from my reds. They are still too young to judge or cast doubt on others thoughts or beliefs. They look at a rainy day as getting to have P.E. inside the cafeteria or jumping in newly formed puddles. We adults may think of it as a ruined round of golf or spots on a freshly washed car. The lack of paying attention to or acknowledging the good, is turning us individually into the overly critical people we said we'd never become. So, my late resolution for 2014 is to journal the good I find in each day and hope that come December 31st, I'll have a pretty awesome list to share.
~ Me
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Thursday, January 12, 2012
Don't Stop Believing
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Friday, October 21, 2011
More than a Name
The downside of this profession is when the economy goes south and development slows to a turtle’s pace, downsizing begins and many planners find themselves unemployed. So in this profession you have to be “More than a Name” or you won’t survive. I figured that out early on in my career and knew that having the professional respect of fellow colleagues, the development community and the public was one important factor in succeeding. This all circles back around to my comment about maintaining what I have worked so hard for.
You might have a pretty smile and can chat it up with the best of them, but that only goes so far. You have to be genuine, follow through and be fair and equitable. This applies to life in general, personal or professional. There isn’t an owner’s manual or road map that tells you how to do these things and to me what should seem like common sense, I suppose is not. Is it really that hard to be genuine, follow through and be fair and equitable? Regardless, I learned another hard lesson this week (one that I’ve learned many times before) and that is, that I cannot control what others do. I can only control what others perceive ME as. And that is why I will always strive to be “More than a Name”.
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Friday, October 14, 2011
A True Soldier
Ralph Grau was a husband to Theresa for 38 years. Father to Robert, Michael and his wife Dottie, Mary, Cheryl, Vincent and his wife Denise, and Terry and her husband Craig. Grandfather to Shannon, Darcy and her husband Jeremy, James and his wife Jennifer, Mathew, Steven, Raymond, Daniel, Derrick, Casey and Katherine. Great-grandfather to Jonathan, Samuel, Lucas, and Braden. Brother to Edna Mitzer.
He served his country as a marine in the early 40's and was one of 14 survivors left in California that served in Iwo Jima. While in Iwo Jima he was wounded twice and was awarded the Purple Heart. He was proud of being a marine and was always willing to share a war story or two.
Many of you may have known him as the friend that prayed along side you, sat behind you in church or met you for breakfast at Johnny's but we would like to share with you the man you may not have known.
Back in his day, he would sport a neckerchief and take our grandmother square dancing. For several years he spent countless hours raising parakeets. What started out as a few, grew into a patio of many. Like most people he had his own rituals. Every night before bed he would enjoy a bowl of Kellogg's rice krispes. He only like vanilla ice cream, not French vanilla; and if you asked what the difference was you'd better have an hour to listen to his explanation. After church, regardless of a morning or evening mass, he enjoyed going out to eat. His morning breakfast for the grand kids before taking us to school was always cornflakes and orange juice.
The smile on his face will be a lasting memory fin our hearts. He was a confidant, friend and someone who will always be by our side. The love and happiness he gave, will last us all a lifetime.
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Tuesday, August 23, 2011
Cloudy Skies
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Wednesday, August 17, 2011
Unsaid, Undone
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